1:1 Mentorship
There is a particular kind of longing that isn't depression. It's not burnout. It's not exhaustion. It's not even unhappiness, exactly. Your life is good: you're basically where you wanted to be, have worked hard to get to where you are. You can list the things you are proud of, are grateful for.
The emptiness is the hollow feeling of having left your fullest, most whole and free self somewhere behind you. The tiredness is from holding together a version of yourself that isn't quite the true one, and has not been for a long time.
You are very good at it. You have been good at it for so long that most people around you don't know you're doing it. You might not fully know you're doing it. But somewhere in you-- lying awake at 4am, on the walk to the station, in the ten seconds after you close your laptop — there is a quiet, persistent feeling that something vital inside you is not being lived.
The problem is that it's quiet. If it were loud, you would have a reason to act on it. Instead it is a hum. A low-grade pressure. A longing for something that doesn't fit any category you've been given. But you don't want to be ungrateful. It's not even loud enough to name to yourself, let alone voice out loud to others.
You've tried to address it though: you've done the therapy (years of it!). You can describe your patterns fluently. You can trace your wounds back to their origins with the precision of someone who has done it many times. You have more self-awareness than most people in your life, which is its own kind of lonely, because the awareness hasn't moved anything. You've read the books. You've done the retreat. You've sat across from more than one practitioner who seemed, briefly, like they might be the one who could finally reach it.
And it's still there:
You still don't know who you truly are/ what you want/ what your truest self is.
You don't know if you're living the life that's truly yours.
You still wonder if there's any purpose to any of it.
You still have the fear that this is all there is.
This page is for you.
WHY NONE OF IT HAS REACHED
There's a specific thing that happens to self-aware people that is rarely named out loud.
You can understand your patterns completely, describe them with precision, know exactly which childhood moment they come from, and still be unable to shift them. You can do years of therapy and come out with a beautifully articulated map of your own psychology and no more freedom than when you walked in.
The understanding isn't the problem: it, and the work you've done are real and important. What nobody told you is that understanding happens in a different layer of your being than the one where authenticity, and self-actualisation actually happen.
Therapy works on your psychology: your history, your cognition, the story you tell about who you are.
Coaching works on your behaviour: what you do, what you commit to, what you change, and how to change it.
Spiritual practice works on your peace: the relationship you have with your own mind, and with something bigger than yourself.
All three are useful. All three are important. None of them touch the layer I work in.
Underneath your psychology, underneath your behaviour, underneath your practice, there is a frequency. A felt, energetic quality that is you, before you learned how to fit in. Before you learned to contort yourself to be more palatable. Before you learned which parts of yourself were unlovable. Before you had to become a certain version of yourself in order to build the life you wanted.
That frequency is the truth of who you are. It doesn't matter how far you drift from it, it is still there. It is a persistent signal from the core of your being, reminding you of what your true authentic self actually is. The fullness of you. The entirety of you. The truth of your being.
It doesn't matter how far you've drifted away, it has remained steady.
It is calling on you in your quiet moments to come home.
I call this path back home to yourself the Heart Path.
When you work in the layer of authentic frequency, the patterns that you struggle with don't need to be dismantled. They dissolve. Change happens as a natural expression of your deepest self. It is effortless. Your life becomes an expression of who you truly are, not through implementing new habits, but through learning to tune yourself to your own truth, and having the courage to allow it expression.
Because you are no longer operating from the version of yourself who built the old habits, but from the place inside you that is timeless and infinite. When you remember it, it starts to lead.
The work I do is guiding you to re-member your own frequency.
Everything else you desire follows as an expression of that.
A NOTE BEFORE WE GO FURTHER
I need to admit something and there's no easy way to say it. If you're anything like me, you probably read pages like this on high alert for anything that sounds too ungrounded or like the person takes themselves too seriously.
I have a finely honed filter for anything that smells like performance, inauthenticity, bluster, or bypassing. I'm really woo, but also rational, which puts me in a weird position when it comes to finding people to work with for myself: too ungrounded and woo (or performative!) and I can't take it seriously. Too material-world oriented and I don't trust the other person to have the kind of large-scale spiritual perspective that need to feel connected to.
I'm guessing if you're interested in working with me, you are similar: a skeptical mystic. A rational woo-lover. Energetically connected but also uninterested in any perspectives that don't also settle your rational mind (with actual grounding, not pseudoscience).
So let me tell you this upfront:
I work with spirit guides. I just call them 'The Guides'. They are the energy of the larger stream of your own Authentic Heart Path as it expresses through you into the world. In sessions with my clients, I connect to my client's specific Heart Path energy, and allow their guides to speak through me. These guides-- a person's Heart Path energy-- offer a perspective so much bigger, broader, and lighter than that of an individual person. It is through being guided to this perspective that you start to feel, in your own body, the somatic sense of your own true Authentic Heart Path energy. Your own true frequency! Flowing through you!
I don't speak with authority about who you are and what you need. I don't predict your future. I don't give you fluff. I don't tell you what to do, or act like a clairvoyant who knows things about you that nobody could ever know. There's no fleuro sign outside my door that says 'psychic' (I wouldn't call myself psychic to begin with, though I am VERY good at pattern-recognition and sometimes these things can look the same from the outside).
What happens in sessions is much harder to categorise: a quality of seeing, in real time, the things about you that you cannot see yourself, because we are all obscure to ourselves in some way. The belief beneath the belief. The pattern beneath the pattern. The gift that has been living quietly inside what you thought was the wound. The version of you you thought was lost, and a path forwards for integrating that person back into yourself.
My sceptical, rational brain is present in every session alongside the Guides. I name what's happening out loud. I question them in front of you if something comes out that doesn't sound quite right. There is no performance. There is no pedestal. No preciousness. I like questions, and doubt, and skepticism, and want you to bring it to the table.
Most of my clients are people who are both skeptical and open at the same time: a lawyer/ mystic; a biochemist who longed to connect to her own spirit guides (she did :) ); executives, artists, professors, film directors, writers, strategists. All of whom have deep interest in, or connection to, the energy world, but are not interested in fluff or platitudes. They've been exploring this stuff for years, and feel alone in being too skeptical to just go all-in on something someone else says. I'm the same way, which is probably why we find each other. I'll never expect another person to simply believe what I say because I say it. My job isn't to be an authority on you, it's to Guide YOU to be the authority on you. Through working together, you will develop your own connection to your own energy stream in such a way that you'll get to be both skeptical and energetically connected, and develop a sense of trust in your own connection to the energy world that is unshakeable, not despite your skepticism but because of it!
Your whole self is welcome here. In fact, we both require it in order for our work together to actually create the changes you seek.
I signed up for Rebecca’s newsletter after following her herbal work for years. In one of the first newsletters I received she mentioned she had a spot for 1:1 mentoring (I love that the subject line for that newsletter was “I would like a bit more proof before I trust the unknown” - so apt for the headspace I occupied). I replied and Rebecca swiftly responded, and off we went on a yearlong journey that profoundly changed how I look at my life and talk to myself.
Rebecca is funny, kind, assertive, and honest. She is willingly vulnerable from a place of knowing and trust. At first it can seem like, “Good for you, but that ain’t me.” But oh, it can be. If you feel like you don’t deserve any good thing, like I used to believe, Rebecca will not throw you a pity party, but she will guide you into an unveiling that reveals the good things you have and are that got lost in the shadows over time. And, unsurprisingly but not unremarkably, the more she empowers you to brighten your own light, the more good things you see here, before, and ahead.
I could have easily succumbed to feeling dim-witted for needing someone to help me find the lamps and screw in some lightbulbs, but that was the truth for me, and Rebecca saw that and worked with it. She has mundane tools for working your way out of the dark and magical tools for helping you recognize what the dark was helping you protect or nurture and how to face it with less fear and more curiosity. She truly was my Virgil and the only sad part about moving on from the Inferno and Purgatorio into Paradiso is that you no longer need Virgil at your side. But that’s also the point.
There has been no shortage of eureka moments since I started working with Rebecca, and they continue even now, like I am finally on the frequency where messages come in clearly and I know how to stay tuned in. If you need nurturing, tools, magic, effervescent laughter and deep cleansing tears to recenter, greet yourself with respect, and fall in love with yourself in this lifetime, you would be wise to consider Rebecca as your psychopomp. The Guides are pretty cool, too :)-Michele
WHAT IS THE FEELING YOU'RE EXPERIENCING
You are a full-spectrum, multifaceted, wild-hearted human in a world that values what it can define. The adults around you (often just people doing their best with what they had) taught you, in subtle ways, to contort yourself. To be a little less. To pick a lane. To be more palatable, pleasant, sweet. You, a bright, shiny wild thing in the world, needed to become something others could understand.
You were a child, so of course you became understandable. You learned which parts of yourself were welcome and you made them 'who you are'. You learned which parts weren't and you tucked them away. This kept you safe, and then over the years made you successful. It felt like the real you for a long time, because you got your feedback from the world around you.
Over the years, the compression became so automatic that you forgot it was compression. You started to believe the version you'd learned to perform was the real you.
It isn't.
The longing you feel now is your whole wild self that has never fully gone away. not a sign that something is broken in you. It is the signal from the part of you that was compressed — the full-spectrum, pre-edited, original you — letting you know they are still here. Still alive. Still waiting.
The pressure you feel is not a threat. It is not an early warning that you are about to blow up your life. It is your true self pushing against the container that you built to survive, but is too small to contain your entirety. The container is not bad. It doesn't need to be blown up, or thrown away, it simply needs to be moved around so that it actually reflects who you truly are. Think of it like a house you built that's too small for you. We move it, brick by brick, until it's a house that is a true expression of you. Usually it ends up with a lot less walls; a lot more windows :).
Your Heart Path is trying to get your attention.
The Heart Path is a real, felt, energetic layer of experience — a layer where you are in full alignment with who you actually are, where there is no gap between the inside and the outside of your life, where you stop performing and simply exist as yourself. When you are on your Heart Path, things do not become easier because the world has changed. They become easier because you have stopped resisting yourself, and have brought the entirety of your being on board, moving in the same direction.
You cannot lose it. It does not go anywhere. You can only drift, and the longing is your navigation system telling you which way is home.
The work is returning.
WHO I AM
My name is Rebecca Altman. I'm a Guide.
I help you see what is already true about you, by holding up a lens you cannot hold for yourself. I don't give you new material. I help you recognise the material that has been there the whole time and show you where it has been quietly running your life, and steering you off your own authentic path. What we do together isn't a creation of a new path, but a re-membering of who you have always been.
I have spent years doing this. I work with 'spirit guides' who speak through me, and I also work with my own training: I have 12 years of Shamanic apprenticeship under my belt, a certification in the Pantarei Approach of somatic healing. I have studied neuroscience, nervous systems, trauma, herbalism, and ecology. All of this informs my framework. I also want to be clear that I come to this work not as a person on a pedestal who has it all figured out, but another person exploring the human condition. I'll often share my own life experiences in our sessions to illustrate points, and to keep reminding you that there's no perfection required here: we're not trying to become so spiritual that we stop being human, we're delving into being so fully and vibrantly alive that there's no need to separate from our physical and spiritual existences at all. True authenticity is a path of constant self-discovery, not one of 'figuring it out once and then putting a shiny veneer over the top.'
Your own authenticity is going to look different to mine, and anyone else's. The goal here is to uncover what is YOUR true path, your true self, your true and authentic life.
My job, as your Guide, is to guide you back into that self, over and over and over again, until it becomes second nature for you to live there.
What you and I do together can't really be described in advance, because it's going to be unique to you. But I can tell you what it has looked like with other clients:
I've watched a biochemist who had been in therapy since she was a child start to feel a sense of confidence in being who she is, and start to make truly effortless and aligned friendships for the first time in her life.
I've watched an artist in her mid-seventies discover that her mind, which she had always experienced as a burden for being too fast, and too scattered, was in fact a specific kind of structural gift, and begin the work she had been preparing for her entire life without knowing it. She'd thought she was starting too late, but in reality, everything that she'd done over the course of her life had come together at this specific point to allow her to create a body of work that she feels is her true life's purpose.
I've watched a woman walk away from a deeply unhealthy relationship that she felt terrified to be away from, and create a life for herself that is a true, deep, incredible and authentic reflection of who she truly is.
And I've watched a woman arrive jet-lagged and untethered, having just sold her home and moved halfway around the world following a series of signals she couldn't explain, and over six months become someone who can sit in a basement of old pain without running, can choose herself over and over, can move to a place she's wanted to live since she was twenty, and embark on the adventure of a lifetime-- a true reflection of the brightness of her own spirit.
I told a friend about the last person over dinner (just the broad strokes-- each client session is absolutely private). Her response was awed: she's free.
Freedom is the core of this. Well, freedom and authenticity. The version of you who is your truest self, who is so much bigger and wilder than the self you've constructed to survive and succeed, is shaking the walls that you've built around it, desperate to break free. To be seen. To be fully and vibrantly alive. To actually feel like you're LIVING the potential you always knew was in there.
WHO THIS IS FOR
You have built a life that works. Career, relationships, the external markers you spent years working towards and building. Some of it you love. Some of it you have complicated feelings about. You're grateful for most of it, and you are quietly suffocating inside parts of it. You haven't been able to say that out loud because you know how it sounds-- to have everything and be genuinely grateful but still feel a subtle discontentedness? You were probably told that you were too much at some point, and fear that this is just another expression of that. You think to yourself that it's probably you, unable to be fully grateful because of some inherent defect-- some inability to ever be fully satisfied. Maybe you were told that you wanted too much at some point in your life, and this fear that you were a ravenous ghost got its claws somewhere deep within you. Or worse, the fear maybe it's that there's a small part of you inside, deep at your core, that can never actually truly be happy. A feeling you keep coming back to, over and over again that you fear you'll never escape.
You wonder if the thing you long for exists at all, or if the longing is just a symptom of this fundamental flaw.
But you long for it anyway. Enough that you sometimes daydream about walking away from it all and starting over. Enough that you sometimes daydream about how it would feel to be truly free. Truly, vibrantly alive.
You have done real inner work. You are not new to this. You have invested years of your life in things like therapy, coaching, somatic work, self-help books, rituals, or plant medicine. You've invested in change. Each thing has helped, often significantly. What's coming up now isn't the thing that sent you to therapy the first time, it's something deeper. More subtle, harder to put your finger on. A sense of missing purpose, longing to fulfil your potential, fear that you can never be fully happy, and a very big fear that if you listen to this subtle feeling that it will lead you to blow up some aspects of your life that you really don't want to.
None of the other work has reached this layer, because this layer exists somewhere else entirely.
What you're feeling is not a midlife cliché. You are not in danger of actually blowing up your life. The impulse you are afraid of is quieter and more serious — it is the sense that something in you is building, and is running out of patience.
A part of you is scared of what this feeling inside you is. What it wants. How many casualties it would take with it on its road to self-expression.
You can sense that if you do not address this consciously, it will address itself. Through a health crisis. Through an argument that was about the dishwasher and turned out to be about your whole life. Through an exit you did not choose. You can feel the fault lines.
You're here because you're realising that a part of you no longer cares how it comes out, but that it needs to.
You are here because you would rather guide it into being on purpose than have it explode out one day when the pressure gets too big.
You're here because the cost of staying small is no longer worth it, but you have no idea what the path in front of you looks like, because there's no word for what you're feeling, let alone a curriculum.
And you are intelligent enough, and well-read enough, and sceptical enough that a significant part of you is still reading this page waiting for your bullshit detector to go off. If that hasn't come yet, you might want to keep reading.
My life has shifted immeasurably since working with Rebecca. Some shifts have been abrupt and disruptive (but ultimately wonderful), but so much more has been a slow persistent enlivening. A shedding of skins, and rebuilding of self from the ground up. I didn’t go into this with the intention of living more in my body, I just wanted to tune into my heart path, but as I tuned in I found myself returning to my body. I didn’t realize how disconnected I had become, and how delicious it would feel falling back into my own skin. Everything feels richer, more expansive. I am sliding into a freedom I’m not sure I’ve ever felt before, a version of me I’ve suppressed for most of my life. I’m so grateful to Rebecca for helping me tune into my heart path, supporting me as I navigated the initial chaos, and being nothing but excited for me when I told her I needed to take the next steps on my own.
— Tamara
WHO THIS IS NOT FOR
This work is not for you if you are at the beginning of your inner work. There are therapists and coaches who will meet you beautifully at that stage, and this is not that. I work in the layer that becomes available after the foundational work has been done. If you haven't started the foundational work, then the space we work in won't feel accessible to you, because there will be so much noise in the way. That doesn't mean you need to be 'healed' (lol), or feel like you have it all figured out (LOL), but it does mean that if you have significant trauma issues that you haven't worked with, or are unaware of some of your patterns even generally, then there's a step that comes before this work, and this work will be a waste of time and money for you initially. In the process of our work together, many of these underlying patterns will come up again, in various ways, but this time to be completely let go of as you return to your own Heart Path.
It is not for you if what you are looking for is an action plan with quarterly outcomes. I will give you frameworks. I will give you tools and practices and things to notice between sessions. But the work is not linear and the outcomes are not measurable in the ways you are used to measuring things. Much of your homework will be attention-based: I'll guide you into feeling a certain way in your body, and give you the roadmap to get back there again. Your work will be to spend a significant amount of time there. You'll have homework to manage the things that come up that prevent you from spending time there. You'll develop a toolbox to navigate your own energetic workings, and that toolbox will be entirely your own. My job is to respond to you in the moment, based on where you are, to point you towards your own tools to keep yourself on your own Heart Path. In terms of time, everybody is different. I've had people work with me for 3 months and be completely free to set off on their own after that. I've had people work with me for 2 years and want to keep going to find even more alignment, more momentum, more connection. The longer-term clients tend to be people who develop a very strong connection with their own Guides, or who use our sessions for Guide-based mentorship on bigger and bigger creative or work projects.
It is not for you if you need certainty. I do not predict the future. The guides do not tell you what to do. What happens instead is that you become so reliably connected to your own knowing that the decisions make themselves from inside you. You become so connected to your own inner being, that you're able to stay in alignment with yourself (and your joy, your peace, your becoming, your vibrant inner truth) that no matter what happens you feel safe, in flow, and like you trust that what is happening is for the best outcome. That is a different thing than certainty, and for most of my clients it turns out to be what they were actually looking for all along.
And it is not for you if you need me to have it all figured out. I am a human on the same journey you are on, a few steps further down the road in some places and not in others. If you need a teacher sitting serenely above the mess, being a perfect example, you will be happier with someone else!
THE ARC
That feeling of not quite living up to your potential somehow? That's the feeling of your Heart Path calling you home.
Every single person is different, and their journey is unique. Because of that I can't tell you exactly what will happen in our time together. But I've walked enough people through this now to see some commonalities in the arc of our work, even if the timings and specifics are different each time.
The first thing is recognition.
You'll feel your own Authentic Heart Path signal, maybe for the first time. While this differs for everyone, the vast majority of people describe it as a sense of coming home. Of it feeling like the truth. Some people cry in relief.
This is your own frequency. Just yours. It's not something you can describe very easily (if only you could make a Pinterest board to describe the truth of who you are), but it's something that you can feel.
Remembering your own frequency is like opening a door that can't be closed again.
For one client, a visual artist in her seventies who had spent her whole life experiencing her fast, generative brain as an affliction, this was the moment she understood her mind was not broken: it was akin to a Ferrari that had been stuck in traffic for fifty years. Her own frequency unlocked the inner permission to be a high-performing engine that moves FAST. She started the painting project of her life soon after.
The second thing is that the patterns become visible in real time.
You already know your patterns intellectually. You have described them in therapy, perhaps for years. What happens now is different: you begin to see them as they are running. At first it'll be frustrating because you'll still do them, but very quickly you'll find yourself catching them more and more quickly, until you get to the point where you have a choice right before doing it. Your connection to your own frequency starts re-writing a new pattern in real-time, and pretty soon you'll be in a place where you find yourself acting from the new place, almost effortlessly.
A client once described the moment she didn't react to her husband's previously triggering behaviours, and was able to simply observe it as it was happening, then choose a different response that was more in line with her true Heart Path self. Their relationship completely transformed as a result of this one tiny, but significant thing: she became more herself, and it gave him permission to be more of himself.
The third thing is the basement.
I need to prepare you for this part because it comes for everyone. It's not a sign that anything is wrong, in fact, it's a sign that you're really moving and changing. As you start to move along on the momentum of your own Heart Path, the old patterns, the core beliefs about who you are and how the world works, start to get in the way. You come flying up against them head-first, and it isn't fun. Underneath all your old patterns that are being unraveled are beliefs about being too much, being unwanted, being unlovable, about the world being a difficult place. Most people have the belief that whatever this feeling is is actually the core of who they are, because it always comes back to here eventually.
I call it the basement.
The difference about uncovering the basement in our work together is that you learn that it's NOT the core of who you are. Not even close. Your Heart Path is the core of who you are, and this is just an old old old program running-- so old that you can't remember what came before it. We've already found what came before it, so now we just give you the tools to find your way out of the basement and dismantle it completely. First, you learn how to truly get yourself out of there so that you don't need to spend much time there, and then, you pull apart the patterns that kept leading you there to begin with.
The first time in the basement will not be fun.
I won't let you stay in the basement-- this is the one place I will be bossy. I also won't let you dig into the things that created the basement in the first place-- that's not the purpose of our work together. Our work is about the Heart Path, and I will guide you back there, then teach you how to get back there yourself. We're all afraid of our own basements. Of course we are-- it's the feeling we've all spent our lives running from.
Through our work together, you'll learn that it's not scary at all. You'll learn how to bounce back out of it quickly. And you'll learn how to dismantle it entirely.
One client did this work with a basement rooted in the belief of not being wanted anywhere. She thought it was a fact. Six weeks later she told me, with a kind of stunned quiet, that she had walked back to the flat she was renting after dinner with her new friends, and felt, for the first time in her life, wanted by a place and the people in it. Wanted by the land itself. Wanted... by herself. The old fear was completely gone. She was home.
The fourth thing happens when you're not looking.
On no schedule, in no predictable way, you will act from your authentic core self under real pressure. Not in a session, and not when you're consciously trying to do something differently. In your life. You will receive an opportunity that a year ago would have triggered you to either flee or try to control it, and instead you will do something new without even thinking about it. Or someone you love will do something that would previously have sent you into a three-day spiral, and you won't even notice until afterwards that it's something that 'should' have bothered you.
One of my clients realised that she hasn't been snacking (something that had previously bothered her). She hadn't tried to change anything, her energy had just shifted and she wasn't reaching for a stress relief in the way she used to. Another client had a MASSIVE disappointment with something she'd been looking forward to, and found herself, feeling momentarily sad as she let go of the future she'd been planning, then excited about where her Heart Path was leading her because she trusted her own unfolding so much-- it didn't occur to her to spiral about things not working out, because she trusted in the larger flow of everything working out so much more. Imagine being that connected to your own inner being that when it's path forwards changes suddenly you're not caught off guard, but excited to see what's unfolding. Imagine being in such a safe and trusting relationship with the unfolding universe that you don't see a disappointment as anything other than you being guided to where is best for you.
And the fifth thing is inhabitation.
At some point the work changes character. You stop digging and start living from what you have found. You develop tools that are yours rather than borrowed. You build an internal compass so solid that no person, no circumstance, no old pull can drag you off your own path for long. The wobbles still come. But you recognise them now, and the recovery is measured in hours instead of weeks. The longing that brought you to this work in the first place is gone. Completely gone. Because you've found the thing you sought, that you feared might not actually be in there. Not because the world has finally given you what you needed. Because you have given it to yourself.
Your life becomes filled with a subtle sense of purpose. Meaning. Direction. Not the kind of purpose that's grandiose, but the feeling of being here for something meaningful simply because of your being.
This is where Tamara was when she described it as a slow, persistent enlivening — a shedding of skins and a rebuilding of self from the ground up. It's where Lisa was when she sat on the shoreline of the Solent and wrote the piece below. Nobody who has done this work would describe where they ended up as having become a different person. They would describe it, consistently, as having become more fully the person they already were.
You won't become someone new. You'll become entirely yourself, in your full-spectrum, wild-hearted glory, for the first time.
Stardate April 4, 2026. Isle of Wight, England.I am sitting on the shoreline of the Solent — an island I have wanted to live on since I started coming here for sailboat racing in university. I'm in the process of assuming ownership of a C&C Baltic 42, a classic 1976 racing yacht built for fast sailing and long-voyage exploration. She is about to take me into a space where I cannot see beyond the horizon.
I am terrified. And I am not terrified at all.
I often say I've lived fifty women's lives in forty-seven years. My smile lines show for it.
My English grandmother went to New York in 1939 to study fashion design at Parsons. She was a stunner, with exceptional taste. But instead of continuing in fashion, she married my grandfather during the war, gave birth to four daughters, lost multiple pregnancies, and spent much of her adult life medicated with Valium. She hated my chewing gum habit. If I popped it as a little girl, she would pinch the back of my arm until I burst into tears.
It wasn't until later that I understood what I was looking at. When we step away from our Heart Path, we dim our brightness. And that dimming can pass from generation to generation.
That return to the Heart Path is the practice Rebecca guides: to unwind the conditioning. To reshape neural pathways built not just in one lifetime, but carried through lifetimes of inherited expectations about love, about safety, about what a woman is permitted to want.
I still love chewing gum. I crack it on the Tube. I was told off for it in a museum just the other day.
That defiance has always lived in me. Not a harsh defiance — a steady force that says: not anymore.
What I am about to do is something I have wanted since I was small: to own and command a beautiful old racing yacht. To take her anywhere. To develop the inner capacity — not the capital — to fix engines, tie better knots, and live in rhythm with weather, water, sky, and shoreline. To take forty-seven years of lived experience and iterate forward into a way of being that is integrated. By land and by sea, as we were always meant to be.
Rebecca has been in my life since 2011. She has witnessed my massive life shifts and the patterns I've worked to undo. The triggers that led me into unhelpful behaviours, and the slow awareness that allowed me to begin unravelling them — to loosen the knot, pick apart the threads, and start weaving something new.
She did not give me something new. She reminded me that I already have it. That we all do.
This doesn't remove obstacles. It doesn't clear the boulders from the path. But it offers a way through them — with elegance, tenderness, vulnerability, joy — and from a place that insists we each deserve this.
Abundance is not what's in the bank account. For me, abundance is stepping into this blue-water journey without the conventional markers — the seven figures, the retirement, the partner, the plan. It is diving fully into the unknown and discovering what is already there.
Rebecca helped me reconnect to that inner cadence. To a place of resolve. To trust that the path I chart is mine.
To sit with my own life's charts. To study the routes of those who came before me. And then plot my own course forward.
To feel that connectedness in my heart, and to claim that sovereignty unapologetically — is a gift.
Rebecca's presence in my life helped me arrive here.
Ready to sail into what comes next.
— Lisa, Isle of Wight
THE CONTAINER
We work together for six months to begin. Then three months at a time, for as long as the work is alive for you.
Six months is the minimum amount of time to work together, because the foundations this work builds cannot be rushed. In the first few weeks you are locating your own signal. In the first couple of months the patterns are becoming visible. The basement tends to arrive somewhere around the third or fourth month. The six-month structure is there to get you through the basement to the other side, where inhabitation begins.
Within the container, you get four sessions per month — this is the catalytic work, live, with me and the guides, responsive to whatever is alive for you that week. And you get WhatsApp access between sessions for the insights that surface in daily life. I read and respond within 48 hours.
Investment:
$1,500 per month.
After the initial six months, we continue in three-month blocks for as long as it serves you. Most of my clients continue for a year or more. Some feel totally complete after six months. Some continue indefinitely, because the work changes as they do — early on it is excavation, later it is companionship on a much wider path: creative mentorship, project development, life design.
One practical note: I work with a very small number of clients at a time. It's a function of the kind of attention this work actually requires. If there isn't space when you reach out, I will tell you honestly, and we will work out timing together.
I know how the longing feels because I've lived it. I lay awake in the middle of the night in my perfect life feeling a growing sense of despair that I might never actually find the thing I was looking for. Worried that it was just a fundamental flaw at the core of my own being.
It wasn't. It was the wildness of my own Heart Path calling me home. If any of what I've said so far resonated with you, I can reassure you that you, too, can find it.
It won't look like mine. It will look like yours. But more important than how it looks, it will FEEL like yours:
Your being, your self, your entire life, can feel like such an honest and authentic expression of who you truly are that you won't be able to remember how it felt to be separate from yourself.
If you want to find out who you truly are at the core of your being,
and what your life would look like as a direct expression of your authentic Heart Path self.
If you want to know how it feels to be fully, inextricably, vibrantly alive.
To find out what your life would feel like if you were truly inhabiting the core of your being.
To be living a sense of purpose, meaning, and authenticity that you can scarcely even imagine right now.
This work is for you.
You don't need to know what the future would look like yet-- that's our job to figure out together.
You only need to know that the feeling in your heart is real, it's alive, it's the core of who you are, and it's waiting for you to remember it into being.
I'd love to help you do that.
You don't need to have it all figured out before you write to me-- the feeling of longing is enough. You only need to be curious enough to begin, honest enough to say what's been building, and ready to commit to your own Heart Path.
Tell me what's been building. I'll take it from there.
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Rebecca Altman is a Guide. She works with people at the moment their authentic core self can no longer be contained by the life built around it — and helps them crack open on purpose rather than by accident, and return to the Heart Path that was always theirs.